'You're a scumbag, and I don't swing that way.'

So I'm talking to this guy who has just said "A fag is a fag is a fag. Waste of human flesh." I reply, "No more a waste of flesh than you are, due to our overpopulation problem. AND less likely to contribute to the problem, too boot. Besides that, every gay man that there is makes it just that much easier for me to get chicks." And he says: "You're a guy?" rather bewilderdly. (this was, by the way, a conversation on the internet. I feel I should clarify this at this time). I responded "No, I'm a gay woman you Jackass." He went on some tangent about how He was macho and joining the army to kill people and besides, he didn't have aids, so blah blah blah. Mentioning that I didn't know how the army got into this conversation, he replied that I had blamed the overpopulation on straight people. I hadn't intended to say that much, although... the world is being noverpopulated mostly by straight people, simply by default, because most people, especially those who spend their lives knowingly gay, don't reproduce. I digress. I moved to clarify with "Well, although that is true because... most gay people, once gay, don't have kids... I wasn't going to put blame on that. The point of that statement was more to be that... 'most human flesh is wasted' due to the overpopulation problem. You know, supply and demand. but it was worded badly on my part."

He was confused. He continued with the classic line "I have ultimate respect for gays, untill one hits on me." I sighed, replying "I wish I could just say 'I have ultimate respect for straight men, untill one hits on me.' because, many of the men that will just walk up to a woman and start hitting on her, without knowing her, are scumbags. No woman wants to get hit on by a scumbag, just as you don't want to be hit on by a gay man."

What he didn't seem to understand is that... not all women feel free to just say something like that. That attitude, the refusal of an advance by default, compromises the social perception of femininity. Most 'straight' men feel threatened by gays because it threatens their perception of masculinity. Nobody likes this if they're not chosing it. So, there are a lot of women out there who can't just say 'You're a scumbag and I don't swing that way' as easily as a straight guy can say 'You're a man and I don't swing that way.'. They are forced, by the social perception of femininity, to find some gracious way of skirting the situation, which often ruins otherwise perfectly good evenings out.

He also mentioned that he didn't like man-hating dykes. This is also a common attitude, and another facet of that compromisation of femininity thing. Were a woman to just say to some man in a bar 'You're a scumbag and I don't swing that way', she would have a good chance of being automatically percieved as a man hating dyke.

Now, do I have a point here or not, ladies and gentleman? He didn't seem to think so.